Contextually Specific Sex

Lots of things are constantly in our faces in St Andrews. The library. The annoying kids from Madras. The flute player. Our classmates. I think sex ranks quite high up that list: at least, it's not in our faces all the time (that would be bad, actually) but it definitely is a huge conversation topic.

Sex in St Andrews is no different than everywhere else. It is in advertising, it is in the fashion shows, the events... It walks hand in hand down the street, plastered on the faces of all the happy couples. You would think this is a simple matter of life, yet it is all but simple. 

Seen that we talk about it so much, I think clearly this must be a reflection that it is a subject that crosses our mind quite a lot. Yes, even girls. This is a riddle I've been trying to solve: we take it for granted that men think about sex every 15 seconds (or some similarly crazy statistic), but is it true that men think women don't do the same? And, conversely, can it be that men are increasingly content with just having a nice meal out, a goodnight kiss, and nothing else? 

The question rises out of my bafflement at hearing that men feel used by the women of this town. I agree that some of us here come off as slightly aggressive, but hey, walking around in high heels on cobblestones whilst wearing incredibly tight trousers can give a girl a slightly violent air (although I have been told by the wise people at hercampus.com that there are ways to get around this serious issue...). Generalisations aside, I'll give the guys some credit: I am fully aware that not all men are keen on the meaningless sex, and go you for admitting it.

The fact remains, however, that in some form or another we all want it: whether it's a quicky outside the Union (or God forbid, the toilets at the Lizard), a very compliant fuck buddy, or a full-on wedding at St Salvator's chapel in a few years' time, I have a feeling that collectively we all think about sex much more than every 15 seconds. The important thing to remember, however, is that it has to be contextually specific. Be sure to be on the same plane; if both people are in it for just one night, then go for it. If one of you has put on a look of intense post-coital endearment whilst the other is bolting for the door, there is some serious imbalance taking place. Essentially, communication helps. It avoids making one feel used, or makes using each other much simpler.